Archive | June, 2014

#100HappyDays – Back with the Happy

30 Jun

I am back after a longish break! These last few weeks have had some work related travel, extended family visits and just bouts of sheer laziness . I did glance at a few of my favorite reads on my reader but I did not comment either. A million posts formed in my head but I was just lazy to type them out. Anyway, at the end the blog world drew me in and I am glad it did as I have missed this space and my interactions with other bloggers whose lives I get a glimpse into through their warm blogs.
Oh and I also want to say, thanks to all of you who read the ‘ Our Story ‘ and  also commented . I was pleasantly surprised by the password requests  . I try to keep on the password requests and if I have missed anyone I will respond very soon. I mainly started writing the ‘Our Story’ series for myself as a fun activity and thought a few people would read but did not expect anything more. Thanks all! For a relatively new blogger , it is really heart warming to see the support and it makes me want to write more.
Anyway I am glad I finished writing ‘Our Story’ and can now focus on regular stuff here.

Let’s do a random happiness bullet post here to bring everyone up to speed-

– The husbadoo and I continue to fight ,make up, make out  at frequent intervals. Our fights peak when we are stressed with out jobs and careers mainly and we end up taking it out on each other. As I had a terrible two weeks at work,I instigated multiple minor to major fights with the husbadoo. Why is this a happy point then? Well, I guess because I cannot recollect any single reason why we fought – all the reasons were insignificant and have been forgotten. We also always end up making up with Tiramisu from Whole Foods.

– I traveled to Texas for work Monday – Friday 2 weeks ago and the week was filled with too much work stress, over eating, over socializing and over shopping. I finally managed to relax on Thursday after a big presentation and managed to sneak in some happy moments with my friends. I got a pedicure after ages which uplifted my mood considerably.

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– I like most of my team mates and as I am remote , I often miss the chatter and camaraderie. I played ping pong with my team guys one afternoon and had a good ol’ gossip session too.

– I got to hang out at this fun place called Top Golf which is golf course meets bowling alley and had an unexpectedly fun time.

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– One of my cousins, his wife and kids visited NYC and stayed with us this last week. Our second bedroom and bathroom got some use which makes me feel a little less guilty about our rent. We got to do some touristy things with them too which was semi-fun.

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– The husbadoo ,Bandar and I got some nice walks off late and are reveling in each others company. Note : This is usually when a fresh fight breaks out so need to watch out for that. 

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– Our walks always end in a playground for Bandar and she is enjoying her summer playing in the various fountains all around .

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– I am thrilled Bandar is older than the kids strapped to their moms in the picture above and that we can truly go out and do some fun stuff with her. So different from last year, this time. She can talk and express herself enough to tell us if she is hungry, sleepy ,hurt or tired which is huge!!

– We have made some other crazy good strides with Bandar developmentally that I am almost scared to blog about, knock on wood. You see, after we returned from Puerto Rico, with my mom in tow from the airport, Bandar restarted daycare after a 2 week break by behaving very strangely. We took her to school in her stroller and she actually sat in it the whole day , till pick up! For the first week or so , nothing and nobody could coax her out. As soon as we went to pick her up, she would squeal and run around her classroom doing every activity she had missed that day. She would refuse to leave school as she was having a good time. The issue seemed that she retracted to her stroller when away from us.  After a few days,she agreed to participate in multiple fun activities like painting and bubbles play, just getting out of the stroller for those and getting back in once done. I spoke to a  toddler behavioral specialist  , posted on multiple parenting forums and overall just got the same response everywhere – that she was just readjusting to school and that we had a stubborn little girl on our hands. She also appeared to enjoy the extra attention bestowed upon her by the other kids when she sat on her throne and lorded over them to some extent
Anyway, it was a period of intense worry as first time parents though to have your previously happy child confined in a stroller all day.
The last week since my return , we have been walking her or carrying her to school and she is doing without the stroller almost the whole day, except naps. Nap time for 2.5 hours is still in the stroller but overall, after 5 weeks this is a huge improvement and I am happy.She is slowly getting back to being her well adjusted self.

– Our eating out adventures near our place in NYC remains over priced and lack luster and after a few more disappointing meals we have been making a lot of simple stuff at home.

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5 Jun

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The Fifth

3 Jun

Our fifth wedding anniversary rolled around last week and the nicest part for me was having both my parents here! This is the second year in a row my mom has been with us on the day but this year was even sweeter as I had my dad as well. We got their blessings and it was funny to have Bandar touch their feet alongside us. There were gifts of course from them – earrings for me and a tie and tie case for the husbadoo and cash for both of us.The husbadoo got me 2 gifts – both jewelry in keeping with his yearly record.. One is a pair of diamond solitaire earrings to replace the ones I lost recently ( last month I lost a diamond solitaire earring in the subway..1/3 rd carat but still very precious and I was really sad. It was a second anniversary gift from the husbadoo:(  . If anyone knows where you can get a matching earring made to complete the pair, do let me know.) The other was an emerald set- earrings and a pendent. Just one single emerald in each setting. I love the green, but really wish he had just given me one thing. This was simple but two gifts seemed excessive.

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Anyway, my mom gets so happy when my husband gets me jewelry – I don’t know why. When she found out they were real stones, she suggested I get them set in gold when I came to India. I of course, said I would never wear them if so ! Poor mom, just doesn’t get why I would like to wear silver when I can wear gold.
Oh and I got him nothing as he said I had overdone it on his 30th birthday gifts last month – half of which he hated/ we returned/ hasn’t opened/doesn’t care for. (Buying for him has become really hard and sadly I don’t even make the effort anymore. We did a marriage quiz online and gifts literally mean zero to him and a single digit like 2 or 3 for me compared to other things like appreciation ranking way high for both of us.The only store he likes is Nautica and I make it a point to get him 2-3 things from there each year and that is really all I think I will continue to do.)
Our joint dessert choice was Tiramisu from Whole Foods. We had tasted some last month and had decided we absolutely had to have that for our anniversary. So light and lovely and fresh!
We went out for dinner to an Indian place downtown – Kailash Parbat with my folks and Bandar in tow despite my folks insisting we go out alone. We took a cab back and forth as Bandar was tired out and it ended up being an expensive affair like most of our meals in NYC have been .Bandar was a tad cranky and my folks watched her while we finished our meal. Oh and the grand finale was Bandar announcing loudly that she had to poop and squatting down in the middle of the restaurant , true railway track style and proceeding to do her business with an intense expression on her face. We hurried to lift her and rushed out hoping no one had noticed.
So that is how we celebrated our fifth. The last year has really been fairly tumultuous in terms of our lives and careers but in a strange way it has brought us closer together than ever before. For one thing it has been just mainly the two of us parenting Bandar and sometimes it almost feels like we are doing that away on an island in NYC ,away from the rest of our family and friends.So there have been torrid fights and troublesome moments through the year, but as a whole we seem to be supporting each other more and more each day, respecting each other and our families more, trusting each other more readily and listening and talking to each other more.
And with regards to the day itself, in short it was pretty awesome with lots of joy and laughs and entertainment provided by our little poop machine.  I can only hope and pray the year ahead is half as good.