Bandar is at a super fun age. I seriously love having an older two year old. She has an uncanny sense of humor, she understands and is listening to stuff around her all the time ( even when we think she isn’t), remembers random stuff and repeats it days later in the perfect context.
One not so nice thing is that she has developed a little bit of a potty mouth though and I don’t know where from. By that I don’t mean cursing , thank God, but literally using potty related words all day long. “Poop”, “Poopy”, “Eating Poopy”, “You are a poopy”, are stuff we hear all day long from here. We made the mistake of reprimanding her every time she said the word at first and that obviously made her want to say it more. So now we just ignore her or distract her with something else. Nevertheless I am called a “poopy mama” several times a day , I assume mostly out of affection as she says it as she gives me a big hug and a kiss. I can only hope she outgrows this stage.
Other random nicer things she has said recently:
“I want a sister and a brother. Both.I will push their stroller.”
(While sitting in the cable car). “This was fun but the part before this was not fun.” (she meant a stimulated silly ride prior to that)
She has started calling out to us sometimes as “Husband” and “Wife”. It’s quite funny to hear. It used to be “Boy” and “Girl” till a few weeks ago.
- “Wife, you need to sit here and the husband needs to sit there.”(during pretend play)
- ( Again during pretend play) “You go hunting and I will cook dal and subji for you and your husband wants coffee and cake, so I will cook that for him”
- Calling out to her dad – “Amma’s husband, come here”
- “Is it fun to have a wife? You are appa’s wife.”_______________________________________________________________
Excitement about birthdays,
“Guess what? First its your birthday , then its Mimi’s birthday, then it’s my birthday”
“What will I do on the plane to New York? I will watch tv, read, eat mamu, nap, drink juice.But can I drink juice? I get rash from juice” (she gets mysterious hives which we think is a juice allergy but we aren’t sure yet)
About the move,
“My toys are on a truck right now” ( she means storage)
“When you got married where was I? In your tummy? “(errr…don’t think so baby)
“When I am big, I will get to eat subji. Spicy Subji”
(After eating too much ice cream) ,” My tummy hurts now from eating too many vegetables”
Me:I think it’s the ice cream.Too much ice cream
Bandar – No , it was the vegetables.
She wants to befriend everyone ,especially the local kids here that she sees in the mall. However she is hesitant to approach them.
“Do you think they will be my friend if I ask them their name? ”
She likes to pretend pray. So funny. She semi closes her eyes and folds her hands in prayer, murmurs a few hindi sounding words and then the remaining is gibberish. She calls it her “Spanish” prayer. She insists her teacher taught it to her but I don’t believe it..
She does this pretend pray at the drop of a hat – last night she stood by the big window in the hotel room and said “I am saying a moon prayer”. And then a string of gibberish.
She has a strange coping mechanism when I leave for work. She is understandably confused that appa stays with her, there is no school, we appear to be on vacay but amma goes to work.Now instead of crying, she has started saying this quite cheerily-
“Go and eat a duckie. Ride a horsie. Hug a beetle.”
Totally nonsensical right. But somehow she came up with this and it helps her cope. And we both say it to each other as I hug and kiss her good bye everyday. This is different from the previous coping mechanisms she had when one of her parents left for work – she used to insist the missing parent was just “buying apples for her at Wholefoods” and not at work . Now it’s the eating duckies thingee. The duckie bit came first and then she added the horsie the week aftger and now today it was the beetle bit.
It’s utterly cute and somehow makes me and her both so happy to say it each morning.
Dear Bandar – This has been a tough month for you in some ways. We yanked you out of your home and school and dragged you across the world to a new country. You miss all the stuff you are familiar with but somehow have adapted in some strange way.
Food has been strange and I worry if I am hurting your nutrition and health. I do the best I can given the resources but hope its not causing permanent damage in any way. Anyway only a few more days of this and we will be in a place with a kitchen (yeah!) and I can nurture you again.
I have been working around the clock and miss our evenings together in NYC.I yearn for those again. We are actually going to go to a place with decent weather, baby . So I will be taking you the park hopefully all year around.
You are more or less day potty trained but insist on a diaper for poops and prefer holding pee pee till we are home (at the hotel) to use the potty rather than use one outside. You do this feat for a good 2 hours and it scares me. But then I had “publish potties” too( as you call them) and I kind of understand it.
You have grown a tad braver this month. You have been in the swimming pool with appa each day and though still in your float are gaining more confidence by the day.You had some thrills on your trip with us to Langkawi and were a good sport overall. You went to a fun trampoline park here and jumped for the better part of an hour with us. And you got to zip line! This last feat, mommy couldn’t do but you did! High five , baby girl! Hope you don’t pick up on my silly fears and instead grow and blossom into a courageous little lion cub.
You refer to us currently by our nicknames which though cute gets a few stares and comments from family and friends. More so now that we are in Asia. I want to nip this in the bud but appa thinks this is adorable and wants it to stick. He claims he doesn’t mind being called by name even when you are older , but I do hope this habit doesn’t last all that long and fades with time.
The books we have been reading have been surprisingly advanced but I love the fact that you listen and ask smart questions. You love snuggling with me at night and asking to be read to and we do close to seven books on most nights. I can’t wait to introduce you to some of my childhood favorites soon.
You have way too much interest in phonetics and I really need to prepare myself well to answer some of the recent questions you have posed.
You have grown into a little bit of a cry baby this month too. All the staying with parents all day long and no school maybe. School really did you heaps of good with the kind but firm disciplining that we somehow fail to do well at home. I do hope we find a new school that works for us in the next few months and that you are happy and well cared for and of course, disciplined well in soon.
That’s it for now gooseberry. Love you and signing off,